Creative Nonfiction Essay Definition Of Love

We will all come to face with it at least once in our lives. Love. Love is a beautiful thing. It can be so beautiful, in fact, that it can cause us to do things that are all out miraculous or just plain ridiculous. Please use these creative writing prompts to write about the wonder of love.

Fiction Creative Writing Prompts

1. Write a story about someone falling in love with another, but is unable to face rejection. As a result, he or she makes up another identity, perhaps through the Internet or other means to try and communicate their love. The person tries very hard to get to know this person without letting on their own true identity since they do know each other in person. What happens next?

2. Your main character wakes up and it’s a perfectly normal day. However, when he or she calls their significant other, they discover their name is not in their phone. They soon discover that their loved one no longer exists. Everyone seems to think this person is crazy since they have absolutely no idea who this loved one is. What happens next?

3. Write a story about a past love calling you out of the blue. You have no idea why this person is contacting you. You both have moved on and maybe you haven’t thought about him or her in years. This past love is telling you they have a secret to share with you. What happens next?

4. Write a story based on the love that your parent’s share or another relative that has an interesting and beautiful love story.

5. Write a funny story about a man getting a psychic reading. However, he ends up falling in love with the psychic. When he returns to ask her out on a date, she has mysteriously disappeared. What happens next?

6. Write a story about a person who has a mental illness where he or she cannot say, “I love you.” What happens? Does he or she ever get over it? How?

7. Write a story about someone who dictates who he or she will date and fall in love with based on some quantitative measure such as horoscopes, how someone performs on a test or a survey, or on someone’s credit report.

8. Write a story based on how someone continually changes how he or she views love. Focus on different elements of his or her life and how love is perceived in these different parts of their life.

9. Write a story where the main character truly feels they love someone but is put in a situation where they have to betray them.

10. Write a story about someone who is a serial monogomist and who may not understand what love truly means.

11. Write a story that follows the life of someone who is always looking for their next love, but does not work on trying to love themselves.

12. Write a story about someone searching for what love means?

13. Write a story in the format of love letters.

14. Write a story about someone who falls in love with someone they have never met before but they have exchanged letters, e-mails or something. They decide to meet them. What happens next?

15. Write a comical story based on a famous historical romance.

16. Write a story based on romance that may happen far into the future.

17. Write a story about two people being brought together by some unknown force.

18. Write a story about someone who does not believe in love and does not believe they will ever find it.

19. Write a story of romance but from a different cultural perspective. For instance write about romance in China, India, Namibia and so on.

20. Write a love story about someone going through a marital conflict such as a divorce.

 

Poetry Creative Writing Prompts

1. Write a poem that captures a specific memory that you have about your first love. This does not have to be about the person, just a memory. Perhaps the sprinklers that were on during your first kiss, a tragic event where your first love was there for you or an idea you had while sharing that love.

2. Write a poem about the first time you ever thought you witnessed love. This does not have to be with you, just the first time you truly felt a couple was in love.

3. Write a poem about a quality that you miss the most about a prior love. Try to pick a specific quality about this person, and not necessarily write a poem about the person.

4. Write a poem about a gift that a beloved gave you in the past and the meaning that this gift gave you at the time.

5. Write a poem about a betrayal a loved one put you through. Write about how that impacted you and/or how you were able to get over that and become a stronger person.

6. Write a poem about the different ways you perceive your loved one such as when you are angry at him, when you live with her, when you both don’t see each other for a long time.

7. Write a poem about the results of someone’s search for love. Keep in mind that this is about the search and the person could have failed or succeeded in finding love.

8. Write a poem about how your definition of love has changed over the years.

9. Write a poem about the first day someone realizes that their beloved has died. Think of different situations where a loved one could die such as a car accident, war, heart attacks, illness, natural disasters and so on. Were you prepared for it? Did you blame anyone for the death? What was it like the last time you saw your loved one?

10. Write a poem about love ending.

11. Write a poem about finding love in unusual places.

12. Write a poem about experiencing heart break from a lost loved one.

13. Write a poem based on your favorite historical romance or even one that your relatives have experienced.

 

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Lately I have been thinking about those tens of thousands of passed-over stories and all the questions and lessons about love they represent. When taken together, what does all this writing reveal about us, or about love? Here’s what I have found.

First, and most basic: How we write about love depends on how old we are.

The young overwhelmingly write with a mixture of anxiety and hope. Their stories ask: What is it going to be for me?

Those in midlife are more often driven to their keyboards by feelings of malaise and disillusionment. Their stories ask: Is this really what it is for me?

And older people almost always write from a place of appreciation, regardless of how difficult things may be. Their message: All things considered, I feel pretty lucky.

In writing about love, the story of how we met looms large because a lot of us believe, validly or not, that a good meeting story bodes well for the relationship.

What do we consider to be a good meeting story? When it involves chance more than effort. You get bonus points if the chance encounter suggests compatibility, like mistakenly wheeling off with each other’s shopping carts at Whole Foods because your items had so much overlap, you got the carts mixed up.

“I get those beets all the time!” “You like Erewhon Supergrains, too?”

Pretty soon it’s time to get a room.

It seems the harder we work at finding love, the more prone we are to second-guessing the results. High-volume online daters worry about this, along with those who routinely attend singles events.

The fear is we may force things or compromise after pushing so hard for so long. We may admire hard work in most endeavors, but we admire laziness when it comes to finding love. (If you manage to stay together over the long haul, however, it will be because of effort, not chance.)

When some people write about love, they can’t find the right words to capture the intensity of their feelings, so they rely on stock terms that are best avoided. These include (but are not limited to): amazing, gorgeous, devastating, crushed, smitten, soul mate and electrifying.

Popular phrases include: “meet cute,” “heart pounded,” “heart melted,” “I’ll always remember,” “I’ll never forget” and “Reader, I married him.” Then there is everyone’s favorite stock word regardless of subject: literally. As in, “our date was literally electrifying.”

Women and men may feel love similarly, but they write about it differently.

A lot of men’s stories seem tinged by regret and nostalgia. They wish previous relationships hadn’t ended or romantic opportunities hadn’t slipped away. They lament not having been more emotionally open with lovers, wives, parents and children.

Women are more inclined to write with restlessness. They want to figure love out. Many keep mental lists of their expectations, detailing the characteristics of their hoped-for partner with alarming specificity and then evaluating how a new romantic interest does or doesn’t match that type.

They write something like, “I always pictured myself with someone taller, a guy with cropped brown hair and wire-rim glasses who wears khakis or jeans, the kind of person who would bring me tea in bed and read the Sunday paper with me on the couch.”

Men almost never describe the characteristics of their ideal partner in this way. Even if they have a specific picture in mind, few will put that vision to paper. I wonder if they’re embarrassed to.

Another list women frequently pull together is “The List of Flawed Men,” in which they dismiss each man they have gone out with over the last year with a single phrase. There was the slob with the sideburns, the med student who smoked too much pot, the gentle Texan who made felt hats but couldn’t commit, and the physically affectionate finance guy who always dropped her hand when he saw his friends.

This series of bad encounters has left them exasperated to the point of hopelessness, so they try to see the humor in it.

Men rarely compose that kind of list, either. In this case, I wonder if it’s because they’re afraid to, not wanting to be seen as belittling women. In general, men write more cautiously about women than the other way around.

Love stories are full of romantic delusion, idealizing love to an unhealthy degree. But in the accounts I see, men and women delude themselves in opposite directions.

A woman is more likely to believe her romantic ideal awaits somewhere in the future, where her long-held fantasy becomes a flesh-and-blood reality.

A man’s romantic ideal typically exists somewhere in the past in the form of an actual person he loved but let go of, or who got away. And he keeps going back to her in his mind, and probably also on Facebook and Instagram, thinking, “What if?”

I don’t know if men are worse than women when it comes to romantic rejection; they are clearly worse when it comes to literary rejection. Even though only 20 percent of submissions come from men, they send more than 90 percent of the angry emails I receive in response to being turned down. To these men, no does not mean no. No means the start of an inquiry as to how this possibly could have happened.

One man sneered at me: “You didn’t even read it, dude.”

To which I replied, sincerely: “Dude, I totally did.”

Writing about love can be similar to falling in love in that we must be as vulnerable on the page as we are in person when revealing ourselves to someone we hope will love us back. That means exposing our flaws and weaknesses and trusting we will be seen as more appealing, not less, for having done so.

Good writing about love features the same virtues that define a good relationship: honesty, generosity, open-mindedness, curiosity, humor and self-deprecation. Bad writing about love suffers from the same flaws that define a bad relationship: dishonesty, withholding, defensiveness, blame, pettiness and egotism.

It has been remarkable to watch the evolution in stories I have received from gay and lesbian writers. A decade ago, their stories focused on issues of marginalization, identity, coming out, and of strains with family members. Within a few years, their focus had turned overtly political in the fight for equality and marriage.

Today, gay writers have largely shed that baggage. They write about looking for love, marrying, starting a family, being a parent, even getting divorced. Sexual orientation that had once been central is now incidental. Which seems like a nice change.

With Valentine’s Day near and the right words about love always so hard to find, let me close by simply wishing you an amazing celebration of electrifying romance you never forget and always remember.

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